I often have women (and sometimes men) write to me and ask how can they tell the difference between a run of the mill, reoccurring problem (or a rough patch in their marriage) and things that would indicate that the marriage is in serious and real trouble. In fact, sometimes women that I’ve been helping will write and say something like “I really think it’s getting better. We’re not fighting anymore. We haven’t made up either, but he’s not going out of his way to fight.” Usually they’re surprised when instead of offering congratulations, I begin asking more questions. The truth is, sometimes, a spouse seeming to “give in” or “calm down” is really the calm before the storm. The truth is, when a spouse becomes indifferent to your marriage, this can really be the beginning of the end. Because when they reach this state, they’re resigned themselves to the fact that nothing is going to change. In their mind, they’re tried everything that could, but were unsuccessful anyway. The fight within them is gone and they’re just ready to move on. I’ll tell you some warning signals that lead to this below.
Source:Warning Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble